You may think couples who go to different colleges may never work out, and that having a boyfriend might distract you from school. As a busy college student who’s in a healthy long distance relationship but still has a 3.5 GPA, I’m telling you that’s not true. Here are some tips to help balance school and a long-distance relationship.
- Communication is Key!!
Communication can make or break the relationship. It’s the only way you can connect with each other while away. Luckily, technology today gives you many options for keeping in touch. I think the most helpful method is video calling because seeing their face can make you feel a lot closer to them. Don’t limit yourself to calls only. You can do fun things together online like watching a movie together at the same time. There is a website called Rabbit (https://www.rabb.it/) where you can do so. The best part about it is that you don’t need to force conversation all the time. You can just enjoy each other’s presence.
2. Make the best out of your dates
When you finally see your significant other, spend as much time with them as possible and enjoy every moment of it. One way to do this is by putting your phone down when you’re with them. Try having a no-phone rule when eating and focus on talking to each other, because you can check your emails and scroll on Instagram any other time.
3. Remember you don’t have to stay with that person forever
All the freedom you get in college can change you. It can bring out the party animal in you, the drunk in you, the smoker in you. Sometimes those changes can affect your relationship. It can make you feel trapped too if you want it to work out. Think about where you see yourself in 10 years and ask yourself if you see that partner with you. Know that there are better people out there for you. That brings me to my next point that you have to learn how to be alone sometimes.
4. Learn to be alone
In my experience, being away from my boyfriend for a while gives me more time to focus on myself. We have our own lives outside of each other, so giving each other space is not a bad thing. If you went to the same school it would take a little more self-discipline to focus on schoolwork, knowing that you can easily cancel your study session to go hang out with your boo. Always put school first and seeing your S.O. will feel like a reward for all your hard work!
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